Showing posts with label proverbs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label proverbs. Show all posts

Thursday, October 19, 2017

SICILIAN KISSES

Can there be anyone who doesn't like Baci Perugina? I often buy just one in the bar, to see, from the saying or proverb inside, if this will be the day that my life changes!

But now they are even more interesting for, in their first special edition, they come with the sayings or proverbs in nine Italian dialects (with translations into standard Italian). The dialects are:  Pugliese, Genoese, Milanese, Roman, Venetian, Piedmontese, Neapolitan, Sicilian (I am glad to say) and, of course, Perugian.  You can't see from the blue and silver wrapping which dialect is represented in your bacio and so far, in the mixed bag I bought, I have found four sayings in Sicilian dialect. I'll just have to keep eating baci to find more!

I'm sorry the example of a saying below isn't very clear, but you will get the idea:

"He who expresses himself well, crosses the sea."


According to a survey carried out by the Perugina company, millennials are very keen to learn the dialect of their own area and I applaud this delightful way of helping them.

Saturday, March 25, 2017

QUIZ: SICILIAN PROVERBS - 22

A little light relief is needed and it's ages since we had a proverbs quiz, so why not have a go at matching these seasonal proverbs in dialect to their meanings?

1.  Marzu, mi rifaccio.

2.  Marzu tingi, aprile dipingi.



3.  Marzu pazzareddu, talìa u suli, e pigghia l'umbrellu.

4.  La luna di marzu règula sei misi.

5.  Marzu conza e guasta, né cuvernu cc'è che basti.



a.  There's no way to stop the breakages and  [subsequent] repairs needed in March.

b.  The March moon influences the moons for six months [ie., the weather of the March new moon period will influence that of the beginning of the next six months].

c.  In March I remake myself.

d.  Tint in March, paint in April [with spring colours].

e.  March is mad - if you see the sun, grab your umbrella.



 Highlight the space below to see the answers:
1c, 2d, 3e, 4b, 5a.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

FRUITY SURPRISE

Just back [details coming later in the week] and I find that Sicily can still surprise me, for I had never seen these on sale before:



Come to think of it, I had never seen them anywhere and I wasn't the only one, as even elderly Sicilians were asking the greengrocer what they were. Sorbe is the answer and I gather they are related to rowans and are the fruit of this tree. They seem to be a largely forgotten fruit and these come from the Etna area.  The greengrocer said they can be eaten when they turn brown and I can tell you that they have a pleasant, peary taste.

Più si vive, più s'impara - you live and learn.

Tuesday, September 01, 2015

APPLE OF MY EYE




Bertie-Pierrine has taken the Italian proverb "una mela al giorno toglie il medico di torno" - the equivalent of "an apple a day keeps the doctor away" - to heart!

Monday, July 20, 2015

TI AMO, TI ADORO......

Most Modicans have a house in the countryside or at the beach, to which they repair in hot weather, and my neighbour upstairs is no exception.  On the way up in the lift tonight, she insisted I go and get a bowl when we got to my floor, and proceeded to empty into it a great many of her pomodori di campagna [home-grown tomatoes]. 

"You'll see", she said.  "They'll taste better than any you've ever bought!" I'm sure they will and it was very kind of her.



"Ti amo, ti adoro
come la salsa di pomodoro."

"I love you and adore you
like I love tomato sauce."

Around here that Italian saying is regarded as one of the best compliments anyone could receive!

"Un piatto di pasta senza pomodori
è come un giardino senza fiori."

"A plate of pasta without tomatoes
is like a garden without flowers",

sings Gino Paoli in this song:




And finally, who could forget this?


Wednesday, February 05, 2014

IN WHICH I SUCCUMB.....



I have been fighting a cold for a few days - ever since, on Saturday, we experienced what Sicilians term "a hurricane" but would just be thought of as " a bit of wind and a shower or two" back in Cardiff, UK.  The lack of proper double glazing and the ease with which water seeps through balcony shutters makes for miserable conditions indoors though nothing, of course, like those caused by the floods taking place in some areas of Britain at the moment.

Yesterday my cold developed into what I had to admit is la febbre and, according to Sicilians, this means I should be in bed under a pile of blankets and hotwater bottles. However, I am still British enough to defy them right up to head-spinning point and then even I had to come home, cuddle up with Simi and give in gracefully.

While I was perusing some death proverbs for Monday's post, I came across a few to do with illness that made me smile and here they are:

Cattaru, vinu cu lu carru - For catarrh, you need wine by the cartload.

Marva ti sarva - Mallow will save you [also said about sage in some versions].

Ogghiu di cumuni, sana ogni dolore - Normal olive oil cures everything.

Cu havi a frevi,  macari u meli ci sapi amari - Even honey tastes bitter if you have a fever.

Pri la rifriddatura cci voli nidi di picciuna - To get rid of a cold, you need a pigeon's nest [ie., the warmth of your bed].

And finally, just to cheer myself up as I edge nearer to my three-score and ten:

Quannu lu mali è 'nvicchiutu, mancu Ippocrati cci pò dari aiuti - When the sick person is old, not even Hippocrates can help him.


Monday, February 03, 2014

BORN ROUND.....

I've never been to the town of Misterbianco in Catania Province although its name has always fascinated me. Disappointingly, it only means "white monastery" so there is no "Mr White" floating about in those parts. In recent days, however, I have been consoled by the thought that if I don't manage to get there in life, I may well do so afterwards, for the town's cemetery is to become the first in Eastern Sicily to offer cremation facilities. They are not going to stint on it either, with a crematorium in a space of 2,000 sq metres, a green area and a special room for the Committal.  

A couple of years ago, someone professing to be my "friend" told me I should start thinking about my funeral and I must admit, I was somewhat taken aback.  Italians can be disconcertingly direct when it suits them so I asked another Italian friend whether this could be considered a normal thing to say. He assured me that most Italians would not even make such a suggestion to a 95-year-old. 

Funding has already been guaranteed for the Misterbianco project and, from the end of April, the town's council will begin evaluating three bids for the work, which should be completed one year after the decision. Meanwhile another crematorium project is envisaged for the main cemetery in Catania but no funds have yet been guaranteed. As "a year" in Sicily can mean anything from a decade to a century, I think I'd better disappoint my erstwhile friend and attempt to hang on!

Just for fun, here are a few Sicilian proverbs about death that I have found surprisingly comforting:

Ogghi a ttia rumani a mmia, siemu tutti 'n cumpagnia - You today, me tomorrow; we're all in the same boat.

Morti e malasorti dovunque vai sempri ta puorti - Wherever you go you take death and misfortune with you.

'A morti conza ogni cosa - Death fixes everything.

Cu' nasci tunnu nun po' morire quadrato - If you're born round you won't die square [the implication being that if you're born stupid you won't become intelligent].

How cheering!


Friday, December 13, 2013

SANTA LUCIA 2013

Today is the festa of Santa Lucia and, for those of you who do not know her story, here is an edited version of a post of mine about her from 2009:

Santa Lucia was martyred in Siracusa in 304 AD during the Persecution of Diocletian. She is one of my favourite saints, along with St Martin and St Francis, because a feminist reading of her story would lead one to conclude that she was partially condemned for her unconventionality [though I suppose all saints were unconventional].


Lucia consecrated her virginity to God and expressed a wish to give all her worldly goods to the poor. She refused to marry a pagan, but her spurned fiancé had his revenge after Lucia and her mother, Eutychia [or Eutychiaea], visited Catania in the hope that the martyred Sant'Agata of that city would cure Eutychia of a haemorrage. Eutychia was cured and Lucia distributed some of her wealth to the poor, thus incurring the further wrath of her would-be husband, who denounced her to Paschasius, the Governor of Sicily.

First condemned to become a prostitute, Lucia literally could not be moved, so then her persecutors unsuccessfully tried to burn her. Finally she was decapitated with a sword and the story goes that her eyes were gouged out first. One legend has it that only her eyes remained of her, but there is also a story that her body lay undisturbed in Sicily for 400 years before other relics were dispersed. In art, Santa Lucia is often represented with her eyes on a plate and church-goers in Italy are given tiny pieces of pasta representing her eyes on 13th December.

Other symbols of Santa Lucia are the sword and the palm and she is the protector of electricians, eye specialists and the blind.

A Sicilian proverb tells us,

Da santa Lucia a Natali quant'un passu di cani. 
- From Santa Lucia's Day till Christmas the days lengthen by a dog's step.

Beniamino Gigli - Santa Lucia

Friday, September 20, 2013

CHINESE WISDOM

Some words of Chinese wisdom spotted in a Modica shop window:


"There is a time to fish and a time to dry the nets."

Most languages have a version of this saying and Modican dialect is not to be outdone:

"Tannu è festa quando veni."  - "Celebrate the festival on the day of the festival." 

Let's listen to a Welsh lady singing Pete Seeger's famous song:

Mary Hopkin - Turn! Turn! Turn!


Thursday, July 18, 2013

CAKE O'CLOCK

Some friends of mine who are watchmakers were opening a new store so I made them a "clock" Tipsy Cake.  The sugar flowers that were supposed to be the hands melted a little in the heat but no one seemed to mind.


"Ogni cosa havi lu sò tempu."
"To everything there is a time."
- Sicilian proverb

Friday, March 08, 2013

QUIZ: SICILIAN PROVERBS - 21 [WOMEN]



Here is a  proverbs quiz for the evening of International Women's Day.  Just match the proverbs and one saying, 1 - 6, with their meanings, a - f:

1.  Essiri comu 'a matri ri Sampietru.

2.  Bona terra e bona mugghieri portanu all'omu beni.

3. Fimmina bona, vali chiù di 'na corona.

4.  L'òmini fanu i fatti: ma su' i fìmmini ca fanu l'òmini.

5.  Na fìmmina, na pàpira e un tammùru fanu succédiri 'a rivoluzioni.

6.  Fìmmini e vôi, di li paisi toi.


Duomo di San Pietro, Modica



a.  A good woman is worth more than a royal crown.

b.  Get women and oxen from your own town.

c.  To be like St Peter's mother [said to have been grasping].

d.  Men make events but women make men.

e.  Good land and a good wife bring a man wellbeing.

f.  A woman, a goose and a drum are enough to start a revolution [a reference to Sicilian history].

To see the answers, highlight the space below:

1c, 2e, 3a, 4d, 5f, 6b.

Wednesday, December 05, 2012

A SPOT OF LIFE EXTENSION

Carni e pisci, a vita ti crisci - Meat and fish prolong your life.
- Sicilian proverb

If the above proverb has any truth in it, my friend Carol and I did a little life-prolonging when we had a meal at Bar Cicara on Saturday night:

First, this generous plate of antipasti came with our drinks:



When we ordered our meal we were asked if we wanted another platter of antipasti but we passed on that.  It was just as well that we did as they don't believe in small portions when it comes to the main course, either.  We both had steak:




And talking of long life, Corriere della Sera today reported that the oldest living person in the world is now 115-year-old Dina Manfredini of Iowa, USA. Born in Modena [Emilia-Romagna] in 1897, Mrs Manfredini  is also one of the last four living people to have been born during the reign of King Umberto I.  Although she left Italy at the age of 23, she still occasionally speaks Italian to her local priest.

But if you want to live a mere 100 years, the place to come to is, as I've written before, Ispica!

Wednesday, May 09, 2012

LIFE EXPECTANCY HIGHER IN SICILY

According to statistics released last week Sicilian women may now expect to live until they are 83 and men until  they are 78. This represents increases of 1.3% and 1.6% respectively as compared with 2004.

Circulatory disease is the main cause of death in Sicily for both sexes and the figure, at 43%, is higher than the national average. The second most common cause of death is cancer, presenting as breast cancer in women and colon or rectal cancer in men.

If I may make a totally personal and medically unfounded observation on this point, I have noticed quite a high instance of colonic illness even in my immediate circle and it is my theory that, despite the Arabic influences of their past, the fact that Sicilians have not adopted more of the spice cookery of the Mediterranean may play a part here.

However, there is hope for those who live in Ispica [a little town about 10 minutes from Modica]:

"Chi viene a Ispica compierà 100 anni - Those who come to Ispica will live to the age of 100."

I hope that residence is not a qualification and that my occasional visits will suffice.

Monday, April 23, 2012

UN PORTONE

During my study of Sicilian proverbs, I have become very interested in the ones that have near equivalents in English or French, and how they differ slightly to fit the particular culture.  One such proverb is,

"Si çiùri 'na porta e si ràpi 'm purticàtu - A door closes and a gate opens."

I understand that a similar proverb is not in the Bible but may be originally Jewish.  It became known in Britain mostly through the Julie Andrews film, The Sound of Music, where it is rendered,

"When God closes a door, somewhere He opens a window".


Window at Castello di Donnafugata, Ragusa, Sicily


I have some troubles at the moment and a door has closed for me, so I would like to say to God,

"Hey, I know you're very busy and I am trying to exercise my Sicilian pazienza,  but please, if you are going to open a gate for me, could you make it kind of soon?"


Entrance to the Nelson Castle, Maniace, Sicily

Saturday, April 21, 2012

QUIZ: SICILIAN PROVERBS - 20 [INSULTS]

There are times when we would all like to insult someone but usually it's better if we don't.  There's nothing to stop us thinking about the insult, though, so here are a few Sicilian sayings for those times when, to quote a British proverb, "There's nought so queer as folk".  For fun, why not see if you can match the sayings 1 - 6 with their meanings a - f ?  You'll find the answers at the end of the post.

1.  A chiddu ci l'agghiu supra ô stomaco!

2.  Chiddu faĉia càlari 'u latti sulu a sintillu! [This is said of a boring person.]

3.  Beddu spicciu ri miènnula amara!

4.  Siri còmu l'uòvu: ciù assài còci cciù ddùru addivènta.

5.  Siri farsu comu 'n sordu catanisi

6.  Chi caristi ra naca?



a.  That one makes the milk dry up as soon as you hear him! [This is said of a boring person.]

b.  Have you fallen out of your arse? [Meaning: "Have you gone completely mad?"]

c.  I've got him on top of my stomach! [This is said of someone you really can't stand.]

d.  To be like an egg: the more it's cooked, the harder it gets [said of someone who gets stupider and stupider.]

e.  You're like a sliver of bitter almond!  [This is said of a real rotter.]

f.  To be as false as a banknote from Catania [with apologies to any Catanesi reading this!]

On the whole, perhaps we should remember:

" 'A lincua nunn'havi l'uòssu e rùmpu l'uòssa" - "The tongue has no bones but can break bones".

For quiz answers, please highlight the space below:
1c, 2a, 3e, 4d, 5f, 6b.


Tuesday, April 10, 2012

SICILIAN FLOWER PROVERBS - A "LET'S BLOG OFF" POST





Every two weeks, the blogosphere comes alive with something called a Blog OffA Blog Off is an event where bloggers of every stripe weigh in on the same topic on the same day. The topic for this round of the Blog Off is "Flowers".


"Mai" flowers in Sicily


Not being a flowery, or "planty" person, I have spent most of this evening wondering how to tackle this post.  Please don't misunderstand me - I am happy to receive, look at and inhale the scent of flowers at any time but I don't want to dig holes for them, worry about them in all weathers or wait for them to grow.


For years I couldn't afford to tame, let alone do anything creative, with my garden back in Cardiff, UK - much to the chagrin of my neighbours - and when I finally did plant some specimens, I enjoyed them when they were small but got rather overwhelmed when they began to spread like triffids.


At around the same time, I went through a house plant phase but the charm wore off when one day I observed live THINGS crawling on some of them.  Yes, I know - "Cu' mancia fa muddichi" - "He who eats makes crumbs", as the Sicilian proverb goes, roughly the equivalent of "You can't make an omelette without breaking eggs" - or grow houseplants without attracting a few attendant bugs, I suppose.

This brings me - unintentionally at the outset, I assure you - to Sicilian proverbs and now we can have a Sicilian proverbs quiz in honour of this week's subject.  Are you ready?  All you have to do is match the proverbs and one saying 1 - 5 with their meanings a - e.  You'll find the answers at the end of the post.

1.  Marva ti sarva.

2.  Favi 'niciuri, acqua a vadduni.

3. 'A biddezza è comu 'n çiuri ca nasci, çiurisci e mori.

4.  Nun c'è rosa senza spini, nun c'è amuri senza peni.

5.  Eni friscu com'i rosi.

a.  Beauty is like a flower that buds, flowers and dies.

b.  Mallow saves you.

c.  There is no rose without thorns and no love without pain.

d.  He's as cool as roses [said of someone who stays calm in a difficult situation].

e.  Broad beans that are in flower need plenty of rain.

Finally, this week's topic does give me an excuse to repost this favourite song from home.  It is sung by the much missed David Alexander:

David Alexander - My Wales




Proverbs quiz answers:
Please highlight the space below to see the answers:
1b, 2e, 3a, 4c, 5d.


Below is the full list of bloggers participating in this week's theme:

Friday, March 30, 2012

QUIZ: SICILIAN PROVERBS - 19 [APRIL]

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Some proverbs for this time of year for you tonight.  See if you can match the proverbs 1 - 6 with their meanings a - f.  You will find the answers at the end of the post.

1.  Acqua d'aprile lu porcu ocidi, lu voi 'ngrassa e la pècura ridi.

2.  Aprile chiuvusu, maja vinturusu:  annu fruttuusu.

3.  Aprile, come mi vidi; maju, come staju; giugnu, come sugnu; giugnettu, tuttu jettu.

4.  Aprili, favi chini: s'un su' ccà, su' a li marini.

5.  Àrvulu chi d'aprili nun fa ciuri, mancu nni fa 'ntra l'àutri staciuni.

6.  Çiurietti e prirricaturi duoppu Pasqua nun anu sapuri.


a.  A tree which doesn't flower in April will not do so in any other season.

b.  The April rains kill pigs, fatten oxen and make the sheep laugh [meaning that wet grass is not good for pigs].

c.  In April the broad bean pods are full, if not here, by the sea [meaning that broad bean plants growing near the sea are ready earlier].

d.  In April, as you see me:  in May, as I am: in June, as I am, too:  and in July, everything off [ similar to the English proverb "Don't cast a clout till May is out", meaning that you shouldn't discard your winter clothing too soon].

e.  Broccoli and priests have no taste after Easter [meaning there is a time for everything].

f.  A rainy April means a windy May and a good harvest.


Highlight the space below to see the answers:
1b 2f 3d 4c 5a 6e

Saturday, March 17, 2012

QUIZ: SICILIAN PROVERBS - 18 [WEATHER]

At the end of a week in which the weather has gone from a three-day hurricane to what would be regarded as a heatwave in Britain, here is a Sicilian proverbs quiz in its honour.  I hope you have some weekend fun trying to match the proverbs 1 - 6 with their meanings a - f.  You will find the answers at the bottom of the post.


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1.  Cca çiovi supra ô vagnatu.

2.  'U suli quannu nesci, nesci ppi tutti [meaning everyone can find fulfillment in nature].

3.  L'aria pulita nun si scanta rê trona.

4.  A quattru cosi crèdito nun dati: amuri di donna e carità di frati, suli di 'nvernu e nuvuli di stati.

5.  Arco sirìtinu fa bon tempu a lu matinu, arcu matinali jinchi pùzzura e funtani.

6.  Quannu çiovi nun sicca nenti.


a. Clean air isn't afraid of thunder [meaning that someone with a clear conscience needn't fear malicious gossip].

b.  A rainbow in the evening means good weather in the morning; a rainbow in the morning fills wells and fountains.

c.  When the sun rises, it rises for all.

d. There are four things you shouldn't believe in:  the love of women and the charity of friars, winter sunshine and summer clouds.

e.  When it rains, nothing dries up [meaning there's plenty for all].

f.  Here it rains on the person who is already soaked  [meaning misfortunes do not come singly.]
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For answers, highlight the space below:

1f, 2c, 3a, 4d, 5b, 6e.

Friday, February 10, 2012

WHEN IN ROME [OR LONDON] ....

A paisi unni chi vai, comu vidi fari fai.
- Sicilian proverb

When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

When Fabio Capello was appointed manager of the England football team in 2007, he promised to learn to speak English within one month.  As I said then, such a feat is not possible and subsequent events have proved it.

If you want to learn to speak a foreign language fluently and correctly, some formal study is essential as well as spending time in the target language country .  Yes, it is true that you can pick up a "street" version of the language you wish to learn quite quickly but you will probably not be speaking in what linguists call "appropriate registers".  Appropriate registers, in languages like French, Italian and Spanish, are often demonstrated by which form of the pronoun "you" the speaker chooses to use and in most languages the way in which the speaker greets different people is important:  in my town, Cardiff, UK, I would often greet acquaintances or friends I saw on the bus with a colloquial "Hiya, love" but I would not have said "Hiya, love" to a client, my bank manager or my employer and certainly not to my Queen!  At other times, more complicated situations arise.

This, then, is one of the communication problems that Mr Capello might have faced during his time as England manager and we haven't even touched upon the vexed subject of grammar!  Of course, with interpreters and others available 24/7 to help him, Mr Capello was better placed than most to do without those English lessons but his lack of proficiency in the language cannot have helped when he found himself in an off-pitch situation which required patience, subtlety and diplomacy.

For readers who are not from the UK or Italy, I'll summarise what has happened:  The England team's captain, John Terry, had been accused, in November, of racist abuse of another player, Anton Ferdinand.  A court hearing was scheduled and everyone thought that the outcome would be known by April at the latest but early this month the hearing was adjourned until 9th July.  Because of this the Football Association, the sport's governing body in England, took the decision to strip John Terry of the captaincy and they informed Mr Capello of this decision last Thursday evening before making a public announcement.

Mr Capello was apparently upset that the FA had made this decision without consulting him and is reported to have said that his authority had been undermined.  Then, in an interview shown on Italian television on Sunday evening he stated - calmly and with some eloquence, I have to say - that as John Terry has not yet been proven guilty in a court of law, he should have been allowed  to remain as captain.

The FA board were, naturally, in turn upset that Mr Capello had spoken on Italian television without consulting them and, at a meeting held yesterday, Mr Capello resigned, with no rancour having been displayed on either side, we are told.

So there we have it:  both parties feel that the other has "gone above their head" and both feel aggrieved.  As the FA states on its website that,

"We are committed to making football accessible to everyone, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexuality, background or ability"

it is hard to know what else its board could have done, given the seriousness of the allegations. Yet, as Mr Capello pointed out in his Rai interview, the allegations are exactly that at the moment. 

Now, as many of you will know, I am not in the least interested in football.  What I am interested in, however,  are the ways in which the matter is being reported in the UK and in Italy:  In the British press the fact that Mr Capello learned little English is being emphasised and the feeling is that his employers, who were paying him a cool £6 million a year, could have justifiably hoped for more linguistic enthusiasm.   And at least one British newspaper has alluded to the fact that Mr Capello "seemed to be on holiday a lot", thus echoing a culture clash between Northern and Southern Europe that we have sometimes seen during the euro crisis.

In Italy, on the other hand, most of the coverage has focused on the fact that a man who has not yet been tried has, nevertheless, been punished and that this could have happened without consultation with his line manager.  Most people I have spoken to here have also expressed incredulity regarding this "sentence without a trial."

Mr Capello looks tired to me and I am sure that he is glad to be home, having taken the first possible flight out of London. But I can't help feeling that, had he learned more English and consequently been able to absorb more British culture, he would have gained a better understanding of how the FA, and Britain itself, work.  His stay in my native land might also have been a happier one.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

MY GRANDMOTHER ALWAYS SAID... A "LET'S BLOG OFF" POST



Every two weeks, the blogosphere comes alive with something called a Blog Off. A Blog Off is an event where bloggers of every stripe weigh in on the same topic on the same day. The topic for this round of the Blog Off is "My grandmother always said...."


I never actually met either of my grandmothers but I do remember "helping" my grandad to wash the dishes and his saying, "Lady to the house" if I dropped a spoon and "Gentleman to the house" if I dropped a fork.  I lived in hourly expectation of these visits and, as my parents ran a newsagent's and sweet shop in Bristol, UK, people were always dropping in anyway so I was able to nod sagely upon their arrival and puzzle them with the information that "Grandad told me so."

My mother, like many of her generation, instilled in her daughter the necessity of always wearing clean underwear "in case you get run over" and, having grown up in an era when some of her classmates did not have shoes, used to angrily declare that there was "no such thing as the good old days" whenever her contemporaries became sentimental about those times.


My mother - front row on the right - at school in Pencoed, South Wales, UK

From my great aunt Mabel I learned that "This, too, will pass" and that there were few troubles that could not be assuaged by getting your nose into a good book.

My father also taught me to love books and that, as Helen Keller said, "The highest result of education is tolerance."  He deemed it important to have what is termed in one of our favourite films, The Philadelphia Story, "some regard for human frailty".  "There but for the grace of God go I", he would say of the misfortunes of others, much more often than he would utter the words, "Serve him right."

Bing Crosby and Grace Kelly in High Society

[I couldn't find the scene where Dexter talks about "regard for human frailty" in The Philadelphia Story so here is the next best thing!]


Dad believed that people should be themselves and he had no time for pretension. If the neighbours disapproved of him, he declared, "They could all move out."  This may be why his daughter, today, can say that those whom she calls the "Sicilian dust police" - women who judge another woman according to her housewifely skills - need not come to her house if it is not to their liking.  Her Sicilian friends find it hard to believe that she really does not care but it is true.

Then there was the uncle who told me that if I ate too many bananas I'd get to look like a banana;  this made me cautious about eating these fruits for years. 

What wisdom will I pass on?  Even though I'll be 62 in a couple of weeks, I'm not sure I've acquired any but I am learning some "new old wisdom" from Sicilian proverbs.  Here are three of my favourites:

"Pi fari beni l'amuri ci voli 'a forza rê picciuotti e 'u pitittu rê viecci" - "To make love you need the strength of the young and the desire of the old."

" 'U Signuri runa 'i viscotta a cu' nun avi rienti" - "God gives biscuits to those with no teeth."

And one for our times.  I wish I'd learned it long ago! 

" 'Cu accatta cosi 'nùtili, prestu vinni 'u bisugnèvuli" - "He who buys useless things will soon have to sell the things he needs."

I think I'll leave you with the advice I offered my female readers on the occasion of my sixtieth birthday, as I am still convinced that it could save generations of women to come from a lifetime of misery:

"Only weigh when you're thin!"

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