Lettera a mia figlia che vuole portare il velo by
Leila Djitli
My rating:
5 of 5 stars
This is the Italian edition of "Lettre à ma fille qui veut porter le voile" ["Letter to my Daughter who Wants to Wear the Veil"] by the French-Algerian journalist Leila Djitli.
Aicha is a French-Algerrian woman who has fought hard for her freedoms and her place in French society. When her seventeen-year-old daughter, Nawel, suddenly decides that she wants to wear full Islamic dress, Aicha feels that these freedoms are threatened.
Shocked and upset, she resists the temptation to forbid her daughter to wear the veil and instead writes Nawel a long letter in which she explains her beliefs, history, hopes for her daughter's future and fears. She also sets down her thoughts on Islam and modern France.
She points out to Nawel that a Muslim man can wear a religious sign - such as the beard - without changing his whole life but that the moment a woman dons the full veil, the veil "speaks about her and before her". The veil, argues Aicha, demeans not only women but men, as it has implications for the way in which men perceive women.
Aicha feels that the veil negates her own history and, with it, the history of Algerian immigration in twentieth century France. As she awaits Nawel's coming of age, she tries to make her see that the freedoms she is rebelling against could enrich her life and help her achieve her dreams, one of which, Aicha is sure, is independence:
"Religion can give you a lot, but not everything."
We do not know what Nawel's final decision will be but the book leaves the reader hoping that she will heed her mother and not be taken in by the peers who are pressurising her to don the veil for their own reasons. Through pen portraits of some of Aicha's friends, we also learn a lot about the lives of French-Algerian women today. But most of all this is Aicha's story: of immigration, of the battle for acceptance and of a woman who values freedom.
As the "burqa debate" continues to provoke strong feelings in both France and Italy, this is a timely book.
Note:
Since the "burqa debate" is indeed, raging in Italy, I will add my thoughts on the whole sorry business here: I of course value women's freedom to wear what they like but in a country like France where the secular state is at the heart of hard-won liberty, it is not unreasonable to ask all to desist from wearing religious symbols in certain public institutions. In a country like Italy, whose own citizens are asked to formally identify themselves every day in order to carry out the simplest transactions, it is not unreasonable to ask a woman to leave her eyes uncovered. In a country like the UK, in which most schools have uniform policies, it is not unreasonable to ask all students to observe them. These matters apart, sisters, I care not whether you wish to wear the burqa or the bikini, provided the decision is truly your own. But remember that generations of women before you fought for your right to do so. Please respect that heritage because all our freedoms depend upon it.